Sexuality. What comes into your mind if you hear the word sexuality? Is it sex? Is it your gender? Is it your being a man/woman just because you’ve slept with lots of women/men? Is it just limited to the physical aspects that come into one’s mind when he/she thinks of sexuality?
Human sexuality is not just the things we see that are related to it. It actually has 2 aspects, (as stated by Fulton Sheen in the article, “Teenagers”) the material and ethereal, the seen and the unseen, the physical and spiritual. Human sexuality is not just the sex, it’s not just the being a man or a woman. It’s how one becomes a man/woman. It’s when a man is one who would allow a woman to sit down before he does. It’s when a woman would try to make herself look pretty for a big party. Human sexuality is when a man/woman follows his/her natural human instinct intended for him/her. It’s not only the purely sexual instinct that he/she follows.
How exactly does human sexuality affect my age group, the teenagers?
Teenagers today look at sexuality as “when two people meet together… in bed” when it’s not supposed to be JUST that. Sex is not the only thing that human sexuality covers. In the Christian (oh sorry I forgot to mention, I am a Catholic) point of view, sex is for married couples and it is supposed to be that way for a good reason. Premarital sex is supposed to be avoided because there are so many sexually transmitted diseases out there that a person could get because he/she didn’t take into consideration the possibility that his/her bed mate isn’t a virgin and had hundreds if not tons of other people go into her/his body. The possibility of not getting the disease is quite low if a freakin’ condom doesn’t fulfill its sole purpose and if the other contraceptives out there don’t work and end up giving the next person an STD. Yeah sure, don’t worry about having a lot of sex. Who gets hurt in the end? It’s the person who didn’t listen to all those school talks about what not to do, the person who didn’t listen to his/her teachers’ warnings about premarital sex. Sometimes, it’s not only the person who gets hurt. Sometimes, also the “fruit” of two people’s mistakes will suffer. A baby’s life will be jeopardized. A baby’s future will be wasted, and if not dealt with in a good way, a baby would grow up like his “mommy and daddy”. How pitiful these children are, yet pity doesn’t help them. It’s their mothers and fathers who can and must help them, but instead they run. Running away from problems becomes the only thing they can do.
Why would there be so many teenage mothers? Why is it that many children are left unborn? Why would a mother give up her child? It’s because of the big mistake people make specially those who are young. It’s when they do it JUST because it’s done by others. Somethings should be done for the right reasons and not for reasons concerning one’s status in the society (either being a virgin or one who’s had sex).
Why can’t a person’s virginity be saved for the right person at the right moment? As my teacher has said to me and my classmates one time, “your virginity is the best gift you can give to your husband or wife.” These things our teachers put into our young and ignorant minds should serve as the stepping stones we use to survive and live a meaningful life and in life the best things we need shall always come at the right time or at the right moment.
As usual, I’d like to end everything with a short poem:
A boy sat on a bench and said
This time I’m really getting you into bed
The girl refused so they bickered and fought
And everything didn’t go just as they had thought
Human sexuality must always be valued
Lessons should stick with us remaining unglued
Things have to be done at the right time
Doing what’s right will save you from the crime
Hubaba, Cherries and Bananas, a blog by Andrea Mae G. Sanchez is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported License.
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